Did you ever pause and I ask yourself: Why do I do what I do? How do I make decisions? Who is in the driver’s seat of my mind?
To break these big questions down, we can ask ourselves:
- Why do I have the job that I have? (or business)
- Why this job and not another? (or business)
- Why do I live where I live? Why this neighbourhood/ city/country and not another?
- Why did I want to have children?
- What do I want to “leave behind”?
- What do I strive for every day?
- What motivates me, really?
- What brings me a sense of well-being and peace?
- What matters to me most?
- How do I show up in the world every day?
I believe we MUST reflect on these questions regularly, with intention and attention. There is no right or wrong answer. Also, the answers may change from one year to another, even every 6 months. That’s OK- as long as we become aware of the changes in how we feel, how we think and how we are changing perspectives. When we live “an unexamined life” – we live an empty life.
Why does this matter in parenting?
Children learn from what we model to them, not what we tell them.
When we live our life with purpose and meaning, children absorb important values such as passion, self- confidence, following one’s dreams, not giving up (resourcefulness, entrepreneurship), authenticity and making a difference.
Let’s all take a moment to reflect and accept the truth of our answers with no judgement. This is an exercise of self- awareness, not an exam. Be kind to yourself! Let me know how it went for you on my Instagram or Facebook.
“When I initially connected with Mihaela, I was not sure what to expect. I was trying to heal from a difficult divorce from a narcissist, dealing with the aftermath of broken pieces, all while trying to keep it together for my 5 year old daughter. I didn’t know how to handle the extreme aggressive outbursts, excessive tantrums, and what seemed like disrespectful disobedience coming from my baby. I felt defeated and not equipped enough to handle it.
Working with Mihaela made me realize that those episodes were my daughter’s cries for help. She is feeling the effects of the divorce as well and so young that she doesn’t know how to handle it. Mihaela has been amazing. She has challenged me to see things from a different perspective. She has helped me to realize that a lot of the frustration or anger I was experiencing from others is just a mirror of the work I need to do, but most importantly she has helped me create a stronger bond with my daughter. I have learned better ways to deal with my emotions which in turn helps me to help my daughter with hers.
She is tough, but in the best way possible, because she is doing her job. She does not sugar coat. She is firm in her beliefs and stands 100% confident in her work, especially since she has been through it and done it herself. She is intelligent, challenging, thought provoking, caring, passionate, and supportive.
I highly recommend Mihaela and her conscious parenting program. Thank you, Mihaela for your continued support and guidance! Words cannot express enough the value you have provided to me and my daughter! ” ( J.)
“Hi Mihaela! I just wanted to say how grateful I am for the listening time you offered a couple of weeks ago. I was in a very difficult position having to handle a super difficult situation and my therapist was away on holiday. I found a lot of comfort in what you said to me, and it made a huge difference because I couldn’t handle it on my own and I had to be at my best for the next couple of weeks. Please don’t tell my therapist I cheated on him; I want to tell him myself 😉” (G.)