Recently, I had the privilege to work 1:1 with several women; some of them moms, some of them single, some of them coupled with no children yet. I want to thank them again for their trust in me as I do my training (practice) in the Compassionate Inquiry for Professionals program with Dr. Gabor Mate in 2023.
What I’ve noticed as a commonality among all sessions is a deeply seated (unconscious) lack of compassion for the Self. This also applies to me and most women on this planet. In the process of early adaptation to the environment (0-7 years old), we learn to:
- judge ourselves harshly
- set impossible standards to live by
- identify with the “voices in our head”
- take care of everyone’s needs, except ours
- and more….
This observation is important because it dictates how we show up with our children, ourselves, and in relationships.
Of course, learning how to develop self-compassion (non-judgement, acceptance) is not an overnight process; it takes time, patience, and a compassionate guide (therapist, coach) but it is possible, within everyone’s reach and it’s learnable.
Today, I invite you to read Dr. Gabor Mate’s books- whichever you resonate with the most. He has free chapters or descriptions on his website; just start with one. (https://drgabormate.com/book/)
If you have specific questions about Compassionate Inquiry work, email me or DM-me on Instagram.