Hello, dear conscious parent 💟!
If you live in the United States, you are celebrating Mother’s Day tomorrow, May 9, 2021. If you live anywhere else in the world, tomorrow is an ordinary Sunday. For example,in Europe, we celebrate mothers on March 8-th.
For me personally, Mother’s Day is Every Day. I don’t need a mega-commercialized day to remind me that I deserve to be celebrated as a mom. I’ve learned over the years to rewire my brain into a state of worthiness and deserviness as a baseline.
However, today, I do want to honor myself, you, and all women around the world for our contribution to humanity: MOTHER-ING. I believe that women, moms and non-moms, do make the world a better place through their natural inclination for nurturing, helping, uniting people, offering compassion and creating. Women are mothers to their children, but also to their neighbors, friends, people in need, ideas, enterprises, gardens, homes, schools and communities, and for that- we deserve to be celebrated!
Furthermore, I want to invite you to adopt a new spiritual practice in your life, that I call Conscious Mother-ing. At the beginning of every day, set a clear intention; at the end of the day, reflect on/ meditate/ write in your journal a short assessment of the day in relation to your intention.
I identified 3 levels of Conscious Mother-ing which can help you set your daily intention:
- Mother-ing Myself : inner child work, re-parenting, self-care rituals & routines, prioritizing mental & emotional health, therapy, healing, trauma integration, activities for personal & professional development;
- Mother-ing My Children: nurture connection with my children; spend 1:1 time with each child; listen to their cries, frustrations and anger with compassion; play to connect; laugh and have fun with them;
- Mother-ing My Relationships: nurture connection with my partner; see friends; volunteer; take care of my clients and business.
If you are a mom and are reading this, I know what you’re thinking: “Who has the time to do all these? There are not enough hours in the day! Did you see my to-do list? I am lucky if I take a shower before bed!”
I hear you and I believe you! I know it’s hard. All I’m asking you to do for right now is to set the intention. That’s all. Here are the first 5 steps to start:
1. Set the intention to mother yourself on a daily basis.
2. Make a list of your NEEDS.
3. Identify who can meet these needs, and what you can delegate to whom. Ask for help when possible.
4. Make a list of your WANTS AND DESIRES. Don’t be afraid to dream. Pick one desire/ dream that you think it’s “doable”.
5. Take one very small action every day towards making that dream a reality. If you have a hard time keeping up with your “goals”, read Atomic Habits, a book by James Clear.
To all mothers: let’s remember that we are doing the hardest work possible. We give life to a helpless human being, then take on the responsibility to programm that child’s inner world, subconscious mind and future self- image. This is the definition of BRAVERY to me. You are brave. You are beautiful. You are loved. Happy Mother(-ing) Day!