conscious parenting100 Days of Gratitude: What I’ve Learned

29 April 2023

On January 9, I decided to start my ritual of 100 days of gratitude. The rules were very simple in my head:

  • 100 consecutive days; I was counting on the research that says the human brain needs between 21-30 days of repetition for one action to become an automatic habit;
  • write 1 thing I was grateful for that day.

Here are some lessons:

We have a lot to be grateful for; more than what we consciously acknowledge. I wrote 7-10 things every time. I could have written 1 thing per day and closed my journal, but I simply couldn’t. That’s because I had so much more to be grateful for every single day, from small things like exercising to big ones, like my son and my health.

Feeling grateful requires intention and attention. This is a tricky one because if I ask you (or anyone else): what are you grateful for?- you would immediately answer: I am so grateful for my kids, my health, my home, my job, my family, my parents, etc… Your attention would immediately identify all the things that you cherish in your life.

HOWEVER – gratitude is a fleeting state of mind.  When things don’t go our way, we blame others and the world; we get angry; we take on the role of victims. We disconnect from gratitude in exchange for a story that protects our wounded Self. We don’t do this by choice; the mind does it automatically as a self-defence mechanism that is deeply ingrained, because it started as a coping mechanism before we can even remember (ages 0-5 usually).

Creating a new habit can take 80 + days. I wish it took only 21 days, but my experience has proven to me that creating new neural pathways is not as easy as it sounds. This is not my first ritual of 30 + days of a new “action”. In this case, on day # 85, I DID NOT REMEMBER to write in my journal. What happened to my brain? What happened to the automatic habit? What happened, period !? I may not know the fully scientific answer, but my educated guess is this: when we are exhausted, overworked, or lacking sleep, our Mind-Body System goes into survival mode automatically (speak of automation). If you’re wondering: I remembered as soon as I woke up the next day; I wrote in my journal in the morning; and I added one extra day to my ritual.

Gratitude Is a Way of Living: it’s not a ritual; it’s not a habit; it’s not a list of things; it’s not “something to remember to do.” The world would be a better place if everyone’s intention were to live in gratitude, WHILE facing the inevitable disappointments and difficulties of everyday life.

When it comes to parenting:

  • you are the model your children are copying and emulating;
  • express gratitude every day towards your children; it means a lot to them, even if they can’t express it;
  • have small, easy -to- follow, annd age- appropriate family gratitude rituals;
  • be kind and patient when your children make ‘mistakes’; find the lessons and express gratitude together.
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